Every relationship has its ups and downs and there are times when everyone could use a little counselling or advice on how to get their relationship back on track.

There are a number of benefits to going for marriage counselling. However, these benefits can also be received from trying out some alternatives to therapy.

Five benefits that counselling can have for your relationship include:

  • Helps identify what the true nature of the problems in the relationship are.
  • Provides a safe place for each person to express their thoughts and feelings in a meaningful way.
  • Opens the lines of communication and provides couples with the tools to communicate more effectively.
  • Allows the couple to find ways to reinvigorate and breath new life into the relationship.
  • Re-establishes their commitment to one another.

Five alternatives to marriage counselling that can provide these same benefits include:


Spending meaningful time with one another can go a long way to resolving many relationship issues.

However, simply making the time to spend with each other is often not enough. “Meaningful” is the key element.

This type of time should be spent alone without any distractions – that means putting away work, the kids and turning off all electronic devices.

Meaningful also means that the time should be spent addressing issues in the relationship while allowing each other to feel important.


Effective communication is not only a term that is related to the workplace but implementing some of the strategies used by successful businesses can actually help your relationship.

Use different means of communication such as texting, email and old-fashioned letter writing.

However, don’t let these forms detract from the value of real face-time.

It is just as important to address the big relationship issues as it is to simply talk about your day and let your spouse know how you are feeling in a calm and relaxed environment and manner.


It is very easy for married couples to become so busy with daily life that they forget to act as a couple.

Work, kids, chores and other tasks can often get in the way of a relationship. Set aside one night a week to go out on a date.

Be creative and make sure that you do something that each of you enjoys on alternating dates.


It takes two people to make a relationship work and it is most often both people who are to blame when a marriage starts to turn sour.

Take the time to reflect on how you have contributed to the issues and what you can do to change it.

Changing your actions can have an immense effect on how your spouse reacts to you and can go a long way to healing and fixing what is broken.


Contrary to popular belief, intimacy is not just about sex.

Whispering sweet nothings in your partner’s ear or planning a romantic dinner is a form of being intimate.

Sharing your desires and fantasies is another way to be intimate.

Holding hands or cuddling on the couch while watching a movie is will nurture the intimacy in your relationship.

And of course, making the bedroom an intimate, secluded island for just the two of you can breathe new life into a stale relationship.

Remembering the reasons that you fell in love in the first place is a good way to start fixing what has become broken.

Woo your spouse and act the way you did when you first met and fell in love with each other all over again.

If you are looking for professional personal counselling, Chila & Associates can assist you and can also help out with life management.

Our counselling can help you rebuild your relationships and develop the skills necessary to manage any type of crisis confronting you.

Please call us today on 1800 331 441 or contact us through our website to make an appointment.